It is often that we are told to never leave a conversation, or an argument on a bad note... and that 
we should resolve differences, make apologies, or purely uphold a positive beat prior to parting 
ways - even for a moment. However, if anyone was to doubt this notion or thought ... it will 
hopefully reign true now, more than ever.
 
Yesterday morning, (Thursday, 02/02/06) at 1:45am, my manager was killed in a car accident. If 
you heard of the accident in Dianella, where the cars speed-o-meter was 'stuck' on 130kms 
following the accident, in which the car (and thus driver) went through a concrete bus stop, and 
continued on to a light pole; this was his accident.
 
Earlier that day (Wednesday), at work ... this manager and myself had a very big confrontational 
argument, which ran for approximately 45 minutes, with some fairly harsh comments from both of 
us, to eachother. While I'm certain that both comments were knee-jerk reactions to a range of 
external factors within the workplace, of which much of it was likely stress-release ... those 
comments we exchanged were the last we ever did.
 
He lived North of the River, his Wife lived near-by (they were currently going through separation), 
and he was meant to have opened the store Thursday morning at 8am... So, for him to be driving 
South, away from his family, friends and job, at approx 150kms (as 130kms was collision speed), 
at 1:45am shows he was emotively erratic while driving.
 
On visiting the crash sight, a witness of the accident conveniently arrived to describe details; in 
which he said "the man looked like he had just had a serious argument with someone, and just 
lost all care on the road" ... now, while he was going through separation, and no doubt had many 
other private issues that previously I was unaware of ... ... it's entirely unrealistic for me to think 
that I didn't somehow add 10kms onto his speed-o-meter, which would have aided in the loss of 
control taking a very mild, slow bend.
 
I know, personally, that I'll be likely feeling in part responsible, and guilty for the entire ordeal for 
the rest of my life - regardless of what most people attempt to suggest as alternative outcomes... 
so a lesson learnt from myself , which I think is one that everyone, and anyone should abide by .... 
especially when dealing with family .... is to never - ever - leave things on a bad note.
 
ALWAYS be sure to sort out your differences, apologise, agree to disagree ... whatever ... but it's 
true when they say, anything you do or vocalise in the heat of a moment can very well be the last 
thing you ever do or say to someone.... and speaking now from experience ... It is the most 
horrible feeling in the world .... and makes you sick with guilt, and "what ifs".
 
Rest in Peace Adam....
 
Regards,
Nicolas Hart.

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