Sparkee's guide on how to treat your special little sugar kitten (girlfriend) 
 
Part 1 :Discovering who your girlfriend is and supporting her in her effort to 
become the person she wants to be: 
 
There are some key things to remember when dealing with and interacting with 
your girlfriend.  The following are not iron clad 100% true, but they apply to the 
majority of women. 
 
1: Lavish your sweetheart in compliments. 
 
Women appreciate compliments, they spend a lot of time, effort, money and 
mental power into looking, smelling, and sounding their best.  So if you 
compliment them they now they're actually getting results, and that you 
care…also that you pay attention to them. 
 
CAUTION: Physical compliments are fine but avoid excessive compliments 
about their sex appeal or the appearance of their sexual organs.  In sex it's an 
excellent idea to tell your girlfriend they are stunning, beautiful and gorgeous, 
but you don't exactly want to keep on telling her "damn your ass is gorgeous!" 
when you're not involved in intercourse. 
 
DO!: Tell her other things to compliment her, tell her she has nice eyes, nice 
lips, a cute nose or ears.  Also compliment non physical aspects such as her 
giggle, laugh, voice, sneezes (yes, you can even say it's cute when she 
sneezes she'll most likely relax a bit more when she has the sniffles) 
 
 
2: Act like you give a damn, because as her boyfriend it's your job to! 
 
Listen to the things she tells you, if she's going on about her day at work\uni 
etc and it is boring you to death that's too bad.  She's communicating with you 
and expressing herself, as the boyfriend it's your role to listen to her, 
understand her and offer her reassurance every step of the way.  If you don't 
give a damn about her day to day procedure then the relationship will most 
likely not work out, so try to show an interest in her lifestyle and do your best to 
be an active part in it. 
Furthermore anyone she knows, communicates with or has feelings for should 
also have your consideration.  When she's talking about her parents\friends 
listen to what she's saying, she is unknowingly telling you all about herself, who 
she is, and the person she aspires to be.  Also the people she cares for, you 
care for. 
 
 
3: Names for your girlfriend. 
 
It depends on your girlfriend's personality, background, name (duh) as to what 
nicknames and pet names you call\refer to her by.  If she has a commonly 
used nickname than use it (unless she has informed you she doesn't like it).  
As for made up pet names try and involve animals and something else, eg : 
sugar kitten, honey bear, cuddle bunny.  If in doubt fall back on "sweetie", it's a 
tested and proven pet name.  Babe is a possibility but sweetie is generally 
more appropriate. 
 
DON'T!:  Give her pet names that place emphasis on things to which she is 
sensitive about and don't give her ridiculous names that refer to body parts or 
sexual acts. 
 
 
4: Discover her interests\persona. 
 
Pay attention to your girlfriend's interests, aspirations, fears and goals.  If you 
share common goals, ideas, morals, fears or interests than both of you will 
bond much better and you'll get more than a lover, you'll get a best friend.  
Support her ambitions and aspirations, provide her with that little safety net we 
all need.  Also understand her fears and talk to her about them, do your best to 
understand why she has these fears or why she doesn't have certain fears.  
Don't dwell on fears though at the expense of her aspirations, it's important you 
talk to her about not so happy topics, but you should always keep focused on 
the more pleasant aspects. 
 
 
5: Learn what she wishes to improve\ does not wish to improve about herself. 
 
This is touchy ground, so proceed with caution.  Just do your best to take 
notice of if she goes out of her way to get a tan, change her hair, flatten her 
tummy, learn new skills.  This partially falls under the whole aspirations area, 
but if you understand what it is that drives\motivates her, if you compliment her 
on these areas she'll feel a lot better and you'll connect with each other at 
greater level. 
 
 
 
Part 2 :Contrary to your own belief…you are not a sex god and you're not god's 
gift to women!: 
 
We men have egos (thanks to testosterone) and we all believe we're 
spectacular when it comes to sex.  If you're a self proclaimed sex god than 
you're most likely just feeding your ego.  Face it…you're terrible at sex, 
everyone is.  The average guy is actually very talented at sex because men are 
sexual beings.  However being good in sex doesn't mean you're good enough 
in sexual intercourse (understand?)   
Discover the following…   FOREPLAY!!!!! 
The world's best cook will only bake an inadequate meal if the oven has not 
been pre-heated.  Guys are good at sex, but they don't pre-heat the damn 
oven!  You burn your pie…NO ONE LIKES BURNT PIE!!!!!!  
 
Foreplay is not asking for sex, getting undressed and then penetrating your 
girlfriend.  Foreplay is more ROMANTIC, then it is SEXUAL.  
Repeat…ROMANTIC!!!  You don't have to see or touch your girlfriend sexual 
organs or anything sexy on her to engage in foreplay.  The following are some 
hints on how to pre-heat her oven, make the love session last longer and get 
more intense, as well as improve your bond, connection and trust with your 
special lil girl. 
 
 
1: 1/14th of your girlfriend's body is a sensitive sexual organ, 4/5th of it is still 
sensitive, just not a sexual organ. 
 
Foreplay doesn't mean fondling her breast's, etc.  It means stimulating her 
body, even non sexual organs on a girl can be stimulated which will turn her on 
and make her feel great. 
 
LOWER BODY: 
 
1: Toes:  You can kiss them, nothing stupid, just a little peck, name them if you 
want and tell her the names you've given them (makes for cute pillow talk) 
 
2: Ankles:  Also kissable, or you could even suck on them playfully 
 
3: Calf muscles:  As above. 
 
4: Thighs:  It doesn't matter if it's inner, outer or whatever, paying attention to 
her thighs will stimulate her as the skin there is sensitive.  Soft kisses, little 
pecks, stroking, sucking, licking, or nuzzling this area will stimulate her and 
inform her of your intentions.  Extra: Running the tip of ice cube up and down 
the length of her inner thigh has proven quite successful. 
 
5: Tummy:  DO NOT NEGLECT THE FEMALE NAVEL!!!   It's very easy to play 
with and fool around with and most girls love it when you kiss their tummy or 
nibble on their belly button.  If she's in the mood she'll move her body as you 
kiss, lick stroke her etc so she repositions you either up to her chest or down to 
her lower body depending on what she desires.  Extra: Placing an ice cube on 
her tummy and then playing hockey with it with your tongue, or spelling your 
name with it is also fairly successful. 
 
6: Small of her back: Basically similar deal to what's mentioned above, stroke 
it, kiss it, lick it, run ice up and down it, all work well. 
 
 
UPPER BODY: 
 
1: Chest: Not exactly her breasts, but the sides of her chest and rib cage are 
sensitive areas, so kissing, stroking, nuzzling and nibbling works well.  Extra: 
All men like to suck on the girls breasts\nipples, spice it up and do it with an ice 
cube in your mouth, also tease her nipples by swirling an ice cube around 
them. 
 
2: Back\spine: Not very glamorous but kissing from the back of her neck down 
along her spine, or even running your tongue along the length of her spine will 
stimulate her.  Extra: Running an ice cube the length of her spine…also good. 
 
3: Fingers\hands\elbows: Kiss them, lick them and suck on them (not to a weird 
degree…just lightly). 
 
4: Shoulders\neck: Most men should know this…if you don't.  Well girls tend to 
have sensitive necks and shoulders, so kiss away, nibble away. 
 
5: Ears: Yes, even they can be stimulated, whispering softly in your girlfriend's 
ear about what you're going to do with or to her will most likely arouse her.  
Also suck on her earlobes or the tips of her ears etc. 
 
6: Hair: Running your fingers through her hair will relax her and make her feel 
very loved. 
 
TO BE CONTINUED…

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